Matt&Vicky

     We have always been the planning type.
Matt more than me. Even conceiving was planned to a tee. That was more my doing because getting pregnant in September meant a few serious things to me. I had graduated from college finally. 8 years later. Also I would have enough time to return to CSUN to obtain my teaching credentials.       
     Also. I had reached a healthy weight, and felt strong. Would have preferred to have weighed less because 210 pounds is no skinny girl, but I do my best to keep up my health and strength.
     Well. We gave it the old college try and BOOM, it took a few days and we were pregnant. Matt was seriously proud of himself for his strong like bull abilities. As he would say. We have now been together for nearly 12 years an married 7 in June. 
     So we have reached a point in our journey and relationship, to now bring in another human to share all our adventures, knowledge an love with. We as partners and friends are strong, in love, and always working on bettering ourselves. 
     Forever, our relationship will take work and a conscious willing to change with the times. Matt and I are definitely not the same people we were when we fell hard for each other at 14 and 15, but our core and foundation are stable and in tact. 
     We are obligated to make sure the other one never strays too far away from who we really are. And we have to be aware and present at all times. Blink, and so much can change. 
     Getting pregnant truly feels like it just happened. But a season has passed. Fruit tree have blossomed and hibernated. 
     It has truly pushed our relationship into a higher more mature understanding of ourselves and the world that is our community. We spend hours talking over what our plans are in how to raise Harvey. 
     We are really seeing the serious responsibility it is to bring in another human into our community and our family. Harvey will be and adult longer than he is a child. So it is imperative that we understand this as we raise him. He must have a fun and fantastic childhood.            
     Imagination and dreaming is extremely important to being a creative and knowledgeable man. So, Matt and I have talked about this for nearly a decade and now is time to practice what we preach. 
     Are we ready? No and yes. But that's how we like it. And it's my job to remind him. We can only be as ready as we can be, but we have to be creative and open to change. Because there is a 100% chance of surprise. 
    We are closer than ever and still fight and debate. We are so in love and still annoy each other sometimes. I wouldn't have it any other way. 
     We are welcoming our first son, Harvey Dean Hinkley, into our world of adventures, searching for more knowledge, asking questions about everything.
     Matt and I just want to give him a world where he feels safe to dream and grow. 
     We give him his boundaries, knowledge of the outside world, etiquette, manners, morals and self discipline. Harvey will be his own person, and all we can do is guide. 
     As I write this, he kicks and bumps me. I cannot express how much I love his movement. He can't do it enough. 
     I know he will feel our love and respect for him as his own person. Matt and I are excited and scared but very ready for this change. We will do our very best and know we will not be perfect, but we have each other to keep us in line and open to being creative. 
     Matt and I cannot forget that happiness is #1.


I love you Matt. I love you for giving us our first son. I love you for being my strength and support through this journey. I feel safe bringing Harvey into this world because you will be by my side.
  
3more months to go.